A memoir & a small movement · Buddy Cobb
nice?

People have called me nice my whole life. I've never been sure I earned it — so I'm trying to find out, in public.

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Nice isn't something you are.
It's something you do.

Over and over, on ordinary days when it would be easier not to. The doing is the only evidence there is. This whole thing is built on that one idea.

The reckoning

So — are you nice?

Four questions. Fair warning: I'm not going to give you a score at the end. The book's whole point is that the score is the wrong question. But let's take a look together.

Question 1 of 4
Someone cuts you off in traffic. A week later, you're —
Question 2 of 4
A friend asks for help moving on a Saturday you'd rather keep. You —
Question 3 of 4
When someone calls you "nice," it lands as —
Question 4 of 4
The last kind thing you did — did anyone see it?

No number. That was never the point. Nice isn't what you did in this quiz — it's what you'll do tomorrow, when it'd be easier not to.

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How this gets better with AI: in the live version, this reflection isn't picked from a list — it's written fresh each time in Buddy's voice, responding to your actual answers, so no two people get the same words and it never feels canned.
Cover of NICE by Buddy Cobb
★ Free on Kindle · July 17–19

NICE

A memoir about trying to be good to the person in front of you — through the fights I didn't take, the drinking I walked away from, the faith I never found, and the people who got hold of me when I'd gone under.

No answers from on high. Just one man, at eye level, working it out.

One decent thing

The idea, made into a habit.

If nice is something you do, then you do it daily. A fresh, small prompt every morning — never the same one twice.

Text someone you're quietly glad exists. Don't explain why.
Your streak: 0 days
How this gets better with AI: prompts are generated, not looped from a fixed list — tuned to the day, the season, and what you've told the site you find hard. It stays surprising instead of repetitive.

The idea, one piece at a time.

Each chapter becomes a short, standalone read. Your blog, your talks, and how strangers find all of this.

01

Seeing past the small stuff

A grudge is a strange thing to own. You're the only one still holding it.

02

The position you put people in

People trust me because I'll never put them in a position where they have to.

03

Going into what scares you

I was afraid of the air, so I walked into a flying academy and signed up.

07

Where value actually lives

Nobody ever feels the position you kept them out of. The good stuff has no applause.

Read over my shoulder.

1,284 people are trying to be decent on ordinary days. I'll send a note when the book's out, and now and then when there's something worth saying.

Speaking & hello

I'm always glad to hear from readers. I'm also open to speaking and conversations about the ideas in the book — if you're putting something together, tell me about it.